A little update on Shy Guy
So much has happened since the last time I wrote. I really don’t even know where to begin. I’ve only seen Apple once since the last time I posted, which is actually really sad when I think about it…
But I’ll start with what I promised the last time I really wrote. Yeah so I’ve been hanging out with Shy Guy for some time now. He really is sheltered and caught up in his own little world. He seems a bit socially retarded when it comes to girls (or people). I don’t know, because I’m not a guy, but he does some things that are really shocking to me. I don’t know if guys would find this normal or not. So we’re english buddies. We hang out before and after english class. But today we had a test and I guess he finished before me. Instead of waiting for me, or tell me he was done, he just left. And this is a pretty casual class, so the teacher wouldn’t have minded if he just nudged me or something, to show he was done. I didn’t even notice, so I don’t even know what time he left, but he couldn’t at least said something? Or maybe waited a bit? I don’t know, that’s something a girl would have done. Just waited outside the class for a friend, or wait until they were done.
But he really is a kind person, even if he does always sound like he’s angry at me. It’s strange, because I actually asked him if he was angry at me once, and he looked so surprised and said that he has never been angry at me since we’ve met. Maybe he just naturally sounds angry? I don’t know… I find it a bit strange. Today I actually made him laugh (which I’m actually very proud of! He’s far too stoic…). I’m just glad that I saw another side to him, I feel like I’m getting to know him better and better each week. We had a very long discussion last week, where we mostly talked about the girls he has liked. I told him he looked like the kind of guy that likes a cute little dumb blonde on his arm at all times, and all he did was laugh and ask how I knew he liked blondes. Isn’t the answer obvious? Just about all guys like blondes in this day and age, it wasn’t that hard to guess. He even admitted to me that I knew everything about him already, and I’d barely known him a month. I’m not sure, but I think he implied that I knew more than most of his friends knew about him, which is surprising seeing as I don’t feel like I know him that well at all.
There are only two things I find very pitiful about him. The first is that he doesn’t seem to be able to see past good looks. I think he is the type of guy to like a girl more for her looks than for her personality, and I can only hope that in time that will change. I think living a life based solely on appearances is really pitiful. To be honest, I’ve loved some really ugly guys. They may not have been much to look at, but they were sweet and kind, with good principals and generally smart boys. And even if I stopped liking them, I still knew they were the kind of men that would make good husbands one day, and would love and treasure people for who they were. Maybe this is just a romanticization, but I believe it to be the truth.
The other thing that I find very pitiful about him is that he doesn’t believe in love. Of course, I saw through him immediately. The first thing I asked when he said this was, “Your parents don’t have a good relationship?” He seemed very shocked and asked me how I knew (he also mentioned they fight constantly). But this is something I’ve noticed in people. Children get their ideas about love from their parents. Generally, if you have parents that love one another, you tend to look for that kind of relationship as well. If your parents are always fighting, then you tend not to believe in love and instead settle on someone that may not be compatible for you, and in turn, end up fighting with your spouse as well.
I know that for me, this is all common sense, but I always seem to impress people when I’m able to make these deductions in a split second. But I think the only reason people think I’m so emotionally smart is because I have a trait that is rare. I have a strong sense of empathy. I can easily put myself in other people’s shoes and think “How would I feel if this happened to me? What would I do? How would it effect me?” And this is the only root of my intelligence.
Any how, I think I’ve written enough for today, I’ll tell you about C and Arrow’s fight tomorrow.
Peace